In his book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: How To Be Calm in a Busy World, author Haemin Sunim (2017) wrote “When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is too.”
This statement holds well for our relationship with food and communion. For many, the interaction with food is deeply transactional. To them, food is fuel. It’s calories and is simply the sum of its parts. Those who approach food in a more holistic way have a far more relational interaction with food. It is intimate and concomitant with warmth and wellness. Despite this, many of us still cling to our ongoing internal food-fight.
Mindful eating is slowing down and approaching food consciously and with a deep sense of intentionality. Stopping and sensing the food that we consume is to connect with every aspect of it, and to do so with each of our senses. Something as simple as a cup of tea is profoundly elevated by taking the time to smell the herbaceous and deep notes of the leaves, the unique floral brightness and slight acidity of the honey, the bright whistle of the kettle, and the rolling whisps of steam that come from the cup. We feel the warmth that it casts and the calming thoughts as we pause for it to cool down. This gives the food meaning and gives us a break from our busy minds. That is mindful eating.
Those who approach food in a more holistic way have a far more relational interaction with food. It is intimate and concomitant with warmth and wellness.
As I reflect on mindful versus mindless eating, I am reminded of an event that happened a few months ago with my 11-year-old daughter. She was sitting with her two sisters on stools, diner style, against the kitchen island eagerly awaiting breakfast. I was carefully preparing an over-easy egg for her. I wanted to make sure it was perfect. Good butter, the perfect pan, just the right heat. I meticulously tended to it, ensuring that the yolk remained intact and the edges of the egg got just the right amount of crisp. I smiled and said “perfect!” to her as I slid the egg gently from the pan onto her plate. She smiled, picked up the entire egg with her fork, and inhaled it whole with a loud “SCHLORP”-like sound. No chewing. No tasting. No waiting for it to cool off. She only slowed down for a moment when she saw the look of utter horror on my face.
As soon as my face un-contorted, I saw my 11-year old’s egg-inhalation as a teachable moment. First, we discussed appropriate table manners and the function of a knife (or at least the edge of the fork). She cooks with me regularly, so we spent time talking about how to cook an egg. How something so simple can be so complex. We talked about slowing down to enjoy food, sensing its essence and balance, and avoiding “schlorping.”
Mindful eating goes beyond just how we focus on food and sense it once prepared. Mindful relationships with food begin with our interactions with each ingredient. Increased interaction gives us increased connectedness with the food. It is in the dining.